Community Magazine July 2009

YOU CAN ASK SITO! Send in your most perplexing queries, questions & requests for the wisdom of Sito. MAIL: Community Magazine 1616 Ocean Parkway Brooklyn, NY 11223 EMAIL: sito@communitym.com FAX: 718-504-4246 all the facts we need to make a decision about our future, in such cases, the best we can do is make our decisions based on what we know today. Currently, this young man is in Israel and unavailable to you as a conventional dating partner. But continually talking to him on the phone is itself a form of dating, though nothing can come of it until he returns. From this perspective, by continuing your long distance conversations, you are putting your life on hold with no assurance that he is or isn’t the one. So, first and foremost, reaffirm your commitment to not speak on the phone. Such a long distance dating relationship is highly dysfunctional for your purposes. If you believe in the concept of nasib (divinely ordained marriage partner), then you understand that the right person will come to you at the right time. Perhaps he is the right one but the timing is off, or perhaps you haven’t even met the right one yet. This not knowing can, understandably, cause anxiety and confusion. But we are all expected to do our hishtadlut, to put in our sincere efforts knowing that Hashem runs the world. To give up dating opportunities for a year would probably show a lack of hishtadlut. Take advantage of this chance to explore your options. Keep an open mind when presented with dating opportunities and choose carefully. Keep in mind your life vision, where you would like to be religiously and emotionally, and how you want to raise a family, and see if the potential date fits the bill. It may be difficult at first, but by extending your effort to open up the field now, you can have greater certainty that down the road, whomever you end up with was your nassib. May Hashem guide you and make the process as painless as possible. All the best, Sito tamuz 5769 JuLy 2009 101 Morris Antebi P h o t o g r a p h y Expert Lighting, Traditional & Modern Poses, Reasonable Rates, Stress-Free & Fun Guaranteed Extreme Portraits On Location Reserve Now, Spaces Limited Over 20 Years of Experience TEL: 732-207-0000 For More Info Check Out: MorrisAntebi.com RECESSION BUSTER! Now You Don’t Have To Sacrifice Quality & Experience For Price! $2250 . gets you a professionally photographed wedding with no overtime charges, high resolution photos loaded on a free iPod shipped within 48 hours! You use the print house of your choice! call for more details! $999. gets you a professionally photographed Bar Mitzva, high resolution photos loaded on a free iPod shipped within 48 hours! You use the print house of your choice! $600.* gets you a professionally photographed Brit Milah , 3 albums loaded with 200 proofs each. *Weekdays only Not happy with your photos from your wedding or Bar Mitzvah that another photographer took? We can fix them or take professional photos for you